In the personal development “industry” many of the top speakers talk about crabs in the bucket. If you haven’t heard of that, the idea is pretty simple. If you catch one crab and put it into a bucket, that crab will do everything possible to get out of there. But, if you add a second crab to the bucket, neither one can escape because if either crab tries to get out, the other will reach up and pull it back down.
The motivational speakers all use this idea as a metaphor for how our “friends” are likely to react when we attempt to get out of our bucket. For example, start a network-marketing business with big dreams of creating financial freedom and you will quickly find out which crabs want to pull you back into that bucket.
Or like I did today, tell some of your “friends” you want to compete in American Ninja Warrior in the year you’ll turn 50 and see how many crabs will try to pull you back into their buckets. It would be very easy to be angry or even bitter about it, but really I’m just sad.
Sad because I’ve had to learn some friends are not really friends after all. Sad that they didn’t believe in me enough to be supportive. Sad that they might not be dreaming some sort of impossible dream of their own.
But, proud of myself for having the guts enough to dream impossible dreams, proud of myself for wanting to be more than I have been, do more than I have done, have more than I’ve had, give more than I’ve given, learn more than I’ve learned, teach more than I’ve taught, and help more people than I’ve ever helped before.
And for the record, I hate the term “bucket list.” But if you like it, that’s OK with me.